- Stop taking so much notice of how you feel. How you feel is how you feel. It’ll pass soon. What you’re thinking is what you’re thinking. It’ll go too. Tell yourself that whatever you feel, you feel; whatever you think, you think. Since you can’t stop yourself thinking, or prevent emotions from arising in your mind, it makes no sense to be proud or ashamed of either. You didn’t cause them. Only your actions are directly under your control. They’re the only proper cause of pleasure or shame.
- Let go of worrying. It often makes things worse. The more you think about something bad, the more likely it is to happen. When you’re hair-trigger primed to notice the first sign of trouble, you’ll surely find something close enough to convince yourself it’s come.
- Ease up on the internal life commentary. If you want to be happy, stop telling yourself you’re miserable. People are always telling themselves how they feel, what they’re thinking, what others feel about them, what this or that event really means. Most of it’s imagination. The rest is equal parts lies and misunderstandings. You have only the most limited understanding of what others feel about you. Usually they’re no better informed on the subject; and they care about it far less than you do. You have no way of knowing what this or that event really means. Whatever you tell yourself will be make-believe.
- Take no notice of your inner critic. Judging yourself is pointless. Judging others is half-witted. Whatever you achieve, someone else will always do better. However bad you are, others are worse. Since you can tell neither what’s best nor what’s worst, how can you place yourself correctly between them? Judging others is foolish since you cannot know all the facts, cannot create a reliable or objective scale, have no means of knowing whether your criteria match anyone else’s, and cannot have more than a limited and extremely partial view of the other person. Who cares about your opinion anyway?
- Give up on feeling guilty. Guilt changes nothing. It may make you feel you’re accepting responsibility, but it can’t produce anything new in your life. If you feel guilty about something you’ve done, either do something to put it right or accept you screwed up and try not to do so again. Then let it go. If you’re feeling guilty about what someone else did, see a psychiatrist. That’s insane.
- Stop being concerned what the rest of the world says about you. Nasty people can’t make you mad. Nice people can’t make you happy. Events or people are simply events or people. They can’t make you anything. You have to do that for yourself. Whatever emotions arise in you as a result of external events, they’re powerless until you pick them up and decide to act on them. Besides, most people are far too busy thinking about themselves (and worry what you are are thinking and saying about them) to be concerned about you.
- Stop keeping score. Numbers are just numbers. They don’t have mystical powers. Because something is expressed as a number, a ratio or any other numerical pattern doesn’t mean it’s true. Plenty of lovingly calculated business indicators are irrelevant, gibberish, nonsensical, or just plain wrong. If you don’t understand it, or it’s telling you something bizarre, ignore it. There’s nothing scientific about relying on false data. Nor anything useful about charting your life by numbers that were silly in the first place.
- Don’t be concerned that your life and career aren’t working out the way you planned. The closer you stick to any plan, the quicker you’ll go wrong. The world changes constantly. However carefully you analyzed the situation when you made the plan, if it’s more than a few days old, things will already be different. After a month, they’ll be very different. After a year, virtually nothing will be the same as it was when you started. Planning is only useful as a discipline to force people to think carefully about what they know and what they don’t. Once you start, throw the plan away and keep your eyes on reality.
- Don’t let others use you to avoid being responsible for their own decisions. To hold yourself responsible for someone else’s success and happiness demeans them and proves you’ve lost the plot. It’s their life. They have to live it. You can’t do it for them; nor can you stop them from messing it up if they’re determined to do so. The job of a supervisor is to help and supervise. Only control-freaks and some others with a less serious mental disability fail to understand this.
- Don’t worry about about your personality. You don’t really have one. Personality, like ego, is a concept invented by your mind. It doesn’t exist in the real world. Personality is a word for the general impression that you give through your words and actions. If your personality isn’t likeable today, don’t worry. You can always change it, so long as you allow yourself to do so. What fixes someone’s personality in one place is a determined effort on their part—usually through continually telling themselves they’re this or that kind of person and acting on what they say. If you don’t like the way you are, make yourself different. You’re the only person who’s standing in your way.
Friday, January 20, 2012
Sunday, December 11, 2011
Watch this all time favorite movie now in Tamil! :)
- James Franco as Dr. Will Rodman, a scientist who is trying to cure his father's Alzheimer's Disease by testing it on chimps. He is a father figure to Caesar. James Franco was cast after talks with Tobey Maguire broke down.
- Andy Serkis as Caesar, a highly intelligent chimpanzee who has inherited the ALZ-112 from his mother while they were testing her, and is eventually brought up by Will.
- John Lithgow as Charles Rodman, Will's Alzheimer's infected father who has improved after Will gave him the ALZ-112 and has grown a strong bond with Caesar.
- Freida Pinto as Caroline Aranha, a primatologist who starts a relationship with Will and has grown attached to Caesar for five years.
- David Oyelowo as Steven Jacobs, Will's greedy boss.
- Brian Cox as John Landon, Dodge's father, a cool-headed businessman.
- Tom Felton as Dodge Landon, John's sadistic son who works as the head guard at the facility and treats the apes cruelly.
- Chelah Horsdal as Irena, a nurse who is looking after Charles.
- Tyler Labine as Robert Franklin, a chimp handler at Gen-sys, and also gets infected with the ALZ-113.
- David Hewlett as Hunsiker, Will's hot headed neighbor, who is later infected with the ALZ-113, and then starts a global pandemic.
- Jamie Harris as Rodney, a guard who is kinder to the apes at the sanctuary.
- Karin Konoval as Maurice and Personnel at Police Station. Maurice is a Bornean orangutan who had retired from the circus and knows sign language and becomes Caesar's best friend.
- Richard Ridings as Buck, an aggressive western lowland gorilla who pledges his allegiance to Caesar after he is freed by him.
- Christopher Gordon as Koba, a scar-faced bonobo who has a grudge against humans.
- Terry Notary as Rocket and Bright Eyes. Rocket is a dominant chimp at the ape sanctuary, until Caesar overthrows him, then he becomes a loyal follower of Caesar. Bright Eyes is Caesar's mother who was captured in Africa and was experimented on and later killed protecting her child.
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Tuesday, December 6, 2011
According to internal source, Apple 4S will be available in Malaysia starting 17th Dec 2011. Just a week before Xmas, I'm expecting a huge crowd over for the device as usual.
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